I have been thinking recently of a dear friend of mine. She is one of the most beautiful women I have ever known. Her disposition is always sunny and she is the very embodiment of grace in action. Her life has given her more than her fair share of challenges. Her mother had breast cancer early in her life and had to have a double mastectomy. Her first boyfriend was a total loser who strung her along for many, many years cheating on her, being manipulative and abusive. When she finally finds the love of her life, he has juvenile diabetes and shortly after their marriage began, he became totally disabled. He is no longer able to walk and is losing his eyesight. She had also discovered during the beginning of her marriage that she wasn't able to have children. Just two years ago, her brother committed suicide at their family home. She has had more than her fair share of suffering and devastation.
My friend has handled everything that has been thrown at her the best way she can. She is alarmingly pleasant each time you meet her. One of the ways she has chosen to deal with not being able to have children is to become a pre-school teacher so that she is always able to be surrounded by children. She was the pre-school and pre-K teacher for my twin boys for about 3 years. EVERYONE who meets her falls in love with her. She has a special and rare gift that I have witnessed in very few individuals, a beaming and beautiful example of grace under pressure.
I know all of us know someone who has been given more than their fair share of knocks. There are certain people who simply seem to have challenge after challenge and can never seem to catch a break. They've been given no advantage in life.
Conversely, there are those individuals who truly seem to float through life with never a care in the world. They ease through life with birds singing sweetly as they circle over their head. These aren't the people who portray a false front to the public and are a total mess behind closed doors. These are individuals who have nurturing and supportive parents that are there for them whenever they are in need. These are the individuals who have been given an ease of life where they've been given things at an early age that take others lifetimes to acquire. They seem to have a magnet for all the right opportunities and easily meet all the right "criteria" so that they are never in a position of having to overcome prejudices in order to make their way in this world. Perhaps love may elude them for some time, but then they magically find Princess or Prince Charming and the fairy tale continues throughout adulthood.
I've recently seen someone like this on television. She was a very young blogger who parlayed what she was doing into her own Martha-esque type television show. I am simply dumbfounded at how someone so young would be given such an opportunity. Perhaps she had connections, perhaps she didn't. There are truly individuals that seem to just stumble into opportunity without ever really having to try too hard. Carolyn Myss, the author of Energy Anatomy created a list of archetypes and this person is definitely someone who falls under the path of "flow". These individuals are here in this lifetime to experience "flow" where everything is pretty easy in life. "How lucky for them." She says sardonically.
So who is the better creator? If we believe that we create all that we experience, who really was a better creator? Arguably, any western New Age view of success would claim that the person with the easy life is much more adept at staying in the "flow" and creating what they want. Abraham-Hicks would argue that these individuals recognized their ability to stay in the flow and never lost that ability, thus becoming a master. I say "Not so fast...baloney" and "You're full of crap." I have repeatedly observed that those who are having an easier time of life are simply having an easier time in life. I don't attribute it to their mastery at following the rules of The Secret or any other manifestation workshop beliefs.
I recently saw a post by Dr. Wayne Dyer where he had this flowery affirmation about drawing more peace into his life. I know about his background and I know he was in an orphanage during his youth. However, given his current status and lifestyle, my thoughts go to: "When have you known something other than true peace? When have you lived in a war zone where bombs are hurtling past your home or you are in fear of being killed due to genocide?" What an absolutely pathetic first world way to look at things. Yes, I'm judging; I'm judging such banal thoughtless platitudes as vapid inspiration. Again, it is certain gurus who are always providing sappy sweet philosophy candy to the lemmings who will pass along such sweet sentiments never realizing that they had absolutely no fear of being otherwise to begin with. I don't respect someone like that.
If we are not supposed to judge what is happening as right or wrong, happy or sad, difficult or easy, then why is it that the word "bad" is only ever applied to the difficult things in life? Better yet, those of us who have difficulties become everyone's pet project and they want to use us to see if the latest platitude from a New Age guru will transform our lives. I'd like to start a George Constanza New Age philosophy approach adopting "Opposite Day" based on a Seinfeld episode where George claimed that he was having greater success in life by picking the opposite of what would be his natural inclinations. So let's break a paradigm here. I would like to choose to stop looking at those with an ease in life as being better. I would especially like to view those with having greater ease in life as the ones who are not such great creators. They are simply drifting along and not really getting any skin in the game of Life. If you want to know what life is really all about, have a good old fashion calamity. Those sweetly singing birds circling around their head should shower them with a little shit once in awhile, maybe then they would begin to really learn the lesson of creating moonbeams out of crap.
As in the case of my friend, I see her as the ultimate creator. Her whole life is about creating diamonds out of coal. She has forged through life with such admirable dignity; she has endeared herself to so many people who respect her for what she has gone through and she keeps on going. She has grit and courage and determination. All of these qualities I do indeed judge to be admirable in a human being. I believe that these are the true creators. They walk through each day of their lives making something better through the grit of sheer will. So AMEN to those of us who have problems and AMEN to those of us who can create greatness out of devastation and AMEN to those of us who show others how its done! Keep on creating lives worthy of authentic admiration! Forge on wounded Lightworker soldiers! I stand beside you acknowledging you for the glorious beings that you are!
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